Unpack Before You Pack

The last three years I’ve been a nomad Mermaid. I’ve moved three times in addition to going back and forth between my current home and that of my husband’s while we wait for his house to sell and we can buy a house and live together full-time – with room for my kids. So you…

Looking for Someone to Blame

If you’re on the “2016 Sucks” bandwagon, I get it. Lots of stuff went down this year – deaths of beloved icons, a heated presidential election – but bad stuff happens every year – and it’s never, ever the year to blame. Was the year that innocent kindergarteners were gunned down in their classroom worse?…

Getting Empty to Find Your North Star

Can you see where you’re going on a really cloudy day? Can you find your favorite shirt if it’s in a messy closet? Do you know how you really feel if you’ve buried your feelings? Can you promote your personal brand and attract the right customers if you are so busy that you’ve lost your passion and…

Hard Habits and The Voice in the Trees

I have a long list of bad habits. When I was a kid suffering from anxiety, my habits included nail biting, hair chewing, plucking the hair from my eyebrows, and, worst of all, obsessive compulsive thoughts about my loved ones dying, which is how I would go to sleep at night. My “nightmares” were when…

How to Win Friends & Influence People for Real

I guess we could just cut to the chase and say, “don’t be a d-bag, don’t be a beyotch,” but of course it goes way beyond that. (Good starting point, though!) When I decided I needed a good ol’ kick in my party pants to get my own personal brand in order so I could…

What is it you really want?

It was the summer of 2015 and I sat in my leased house in NW Edmond feeling a little lost and sorry for myself. My kids were with their dad and I felt the enormity of the silence. The quiet was yelling at me. “WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?”  Because I’m an ENTJ (Extrovert,…

2015: The Year for Living Boldly

“No, no! The adventures first, explanations take such a dreadful time.” ― Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass Happy New Year, readers! While a new year may just be another number, every day is an opportunity to fully live, right? If you are like me and last year threw you for a loop,…

Thanks + Top Advice from Team Get Real

Happy Thanksgiving! In counting my blessings this year, in addition to family and friends and servant hearts, I’m so thankful for the great advice and quotes I got all year from Team Get Real (counselors, friends, wise famous people). If you are in a place where you are seeking clarity or simply trying to expand…

Get Real: The Four Agreements

What if you had four simple ways to live in peace and increase your happiness? Don Miguel Ruiz gives us a guide in his international bestseller, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom.”  I recall how helpful the book was back in my early days of co-owning an ad agency ten years ago….

Get Happy Week 5: Forget Normal

“You’re so weird, Mom!” My 14-year-old daughter said before taking the jar of moon water and trying it. “What do you think?” I asked. “I like it because it’s cold, not because it’s moon water.” I love her directness except when I don’t. My 17-year-old son, who would not partake of the moon water and…

Get Happy Week 4: Fire in the Belly

I don’t know what it’s like to be a man, but in writing from a male perspective in my current work-in-progress, I’ve thought a lot about it, interviewed a lot of vets and have tried to immerse myself in the world of Jake, my twenty-two-year-old Iraq war vet amputee who is back home in a…

Get Happy Week 3: The Authentic You

In that same lobby where I met the old couple who embodied unconditional joy in my first Get Happy post, the receptionist asked me if I own a boutique in town. I shook my head and told her, “No. I’m a writer.” “Oh,” she replied. “You look like you’d own one of those really cute shops.”…